Lesson # 2 – How to Control a Man

This topic came up because another roommate has been having some issues with her boyfriend. Slumdog has the answer to EVERYTHING. It’s amazing. She’s like a human Eight Ball.

She has to be a queen, not a princess. You can’t control a man by pulling out your sword. We have to put down the sword, be vulnerable so that he wants to protect us. Once they see us as their queen, not a princess, they will protect us with their life.

This is the part where she cites Angelina Jolie as a prime role model.

When she was with Billy Bob Thornton she was acting like a princess, but now, she is Brad’s Queen. He will do anything for her. He’s building houses in New Orleans, and changing diapers of kids that aren’t even his!

While this is certainly impressive, I had to question her implied reasons. “Well, maybe that’s because she fucking gorgeous??”

She continued:

That is not the reason. She was gorgeous when she was with Billy Bob, but she did not create and hold her vision for her life. Women are designed with a DSL connection to the infinite. Men are dial up. They need our direction. We have to be queen and allow them to protect us. We are not meant to protect ourselves. Like Angelina, if we hold our vision, the man needed to manifest that vision will appear if a space has been cleared for him.
(more on “space clearing” later…)

“Okay, well let me play devil’s advocate for a moment and ask, where’s your man?”

She starred at me with a dead pan face and replied, “I’m still working on it.”